What im looking for Exactly

What I am exactly looking for in a lover 1. is willing to commit to me and 2. accept me for who I am. Ill admit I am a complex person and hard to get along with. But when a person is a complex person just like me that makes our relationship stronger. I want someone to be able to love me outside of the bedroom and that sex is not going to be an important part in our relationship. I have got my flesh under control then you should have yours under control too. Also we MUST share some of the same values: Religion, family, friends, kicking it, and eating. To not be scared to be around my friends or to kick it with us in general.. And nothing turns me off more than a Insecure man. What the hell you insecure about? My motto is if you take care of home by means of emotional, phychological, and physical supports then he will not stray from home. If I am with someone and the sex is not all that great, being realistic.. not many of us can be satisfied sexually. I will not stray to be satisfied elsewhere if all the criteria are met. I have not cheated on anyone in the past. Question: Why is it that your man cant go anywhere without you going with him? Yall were not born together or joined at the hip so there should be some times when he can go out with the boys and not be tracked/stalked down because you want to know his whereabouts and what he is doing at all times. Im a social worker and once I sense insecurity in someone I basically i am done with them and we have nothing else to discuss.
Physically I am attracted to dark thicker men and when I used to really be into woman before I starting really dating men.. I used to love bright skin, thick women and most of them had pretty eyes. Right now I only have one lady in my life right now whom is light bright and thick. But the men I have dated, at least 80% have been dark men at least a 36 waist. There is nothing great to me than a coco thick man especially when he got a nice booty and a nice bird too so I can look at, play with, and maybe put in my mouth. But their can be exceptions.... Because I was in love with this puerto rican who no where close to being chocolate.. but he was thick. Then their have been light skin thick brothers I messed with and also the skinny light and dark brothers I have messed with too. Im learning to stop being such a selfish lover and participate in the fore play part of sex. I really used to have a problem with uncut penises but not so much anymore.. and ill get to the point when I start wanting to put them in my mouth. I am not hung up on looks but I aint going to date the worst looking person in the world. I have my standards and my hang ups just as any other man. Thats Why I am SINGLE AS HELL right.